We’re about ten days into Venus retrograde, and for many people, this is when the “hey, how have you been?” texts start arriving. Maybe it’s an ex, maybe it’s an old crush, maybe it’s someone you haven’t thought about in years. Before you reply, it helps to pause and check in with yourself.
Why Do Exes Reappear During Venus Retrograde?
Venus retrograde is associated with revisiting past relationships, so many people notice old flames resurfacing, whether through a message, a chance meeting, or simply a flood of memories.
Astrology sees this as a time for review. A returning ex may be an opportunity to reflect, not necessarily to reunite.
Four Questions to Ask Before You Reply
- How did this relationship end? Consider whether the reasons for ending still apply.
- What do I miss? It may be the person, or it may be a feeling or a time in your life.
- How do I feel after we talk? Notice whether contact leaves you calm or unsettled.
- What do I want now? Your needs today may be very different from your needs back then.
If You Decide to Respond
Take it slowly. You can be kind and friendly without making promises. Many people find Venus retrograde a better time for closure and understanding than for starting over.
Listening to Your Heart
There’s no single right answer, only the answer that feels right for you. If you’d like help sorting through mixed feelings, a love reading with an Everclear Advisor can offer a thoughtful perspective.